7 Surprising Things That Are Sapping Your Sex Drive

You know that being tired, stressed or simply feeling a bit fat can put you off getting frisky – but did you realise that there are 7 other sneaky sex drive sappers you might not know about?

Overall, exercise is great for the libido – it makes you feel body-confident, revs up circulation, and exercisers tend to climax easier than sedentary types. However, you can fall into the over-exercising trap, which can leave you too tired for love. “To help restore hormone balance and get your libido firing again, you need more rest,” says Andrew Cate, author of The H-Factor Diet. “Structure training so you alternate hard and easy days to rest your muscles.”

A recent study also found that being exposed to tears dampened down activity in the arousal part of men’s brains. If you fancy a movie, choose something a little bit sexy instead. Not surprisingly, watching other people get frisky tends to trigger the same response in most of us.

You use them for family planning, but an estimated five to 10 percent of women on the Pill find their libido falls. Switching to a different Pill may help, so talk to your GP about this.

For starters, your heel height may impact on sexual sensations. Dr Maria Cerruto at Italy’s University of Verona found that heels from 3cm upwards puts strain on your ankles that makes you tighten your pelvic floor muscles, toning them up!

According to doctors at the Second University of Naples, Italy, women with high cholesterol levels have lower levels of arousal, are less likely to climax and more likely to suffer problems like vaginal dryness. Just like with too much alcohol, blood flow is thought to be a key here; high cholesterol may lead to narrowed blood vessels around the body, including the genitals. Reducing cholesterol levels with diet and exercise may perk you back up.

“Most women need to turn off their brain to get turned on,” says Dr Diana Hoppe, author of Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life. “We are natural multi-taskers, but in the bedroom that can stop you focusing on your partner and lead to less enjoyment.” Get rid of anything that distracts you from love-making – and that includes the bedroom TV.” Studies in Italy revealed that people with a television in the bedroom have 50 percent less sex,” adds Hoppe.

When did you and your partner have a full-on, teenage make-out session? Well, it might be time to give one a go. According to anthropologist Helen Fisher from Rutgers University in the US, sloppy, open-mouthed, tongue-twisting kisses help pass saliva from your man to you – and his saliva is packed with libido-boosting testosterone. Stopping the smooches might also stop this natural passion booster.