5 Ways To Love Yourself

Sometimes you just need to take care of numero uno (that’s you) and everything will fall in place

We women always give so much of ourselves, to the point that it takes a toll on our physical as well as mental well-being. But despite your best intentions, continuing this won’t bode well for both you and your loved ones in the long run. Be sure to take care of yourself, so that you can be better at taking care of others. Here are things you can do to boost your well-being.

  1. Minimise chaos and clutter in your life

You can’t focus on yourself if you have 1,001 things to attend to. Take some time to take stock of everything that’s happening in your life and figure out a plan to either 1) eliminate those that are bogging you down, or 2) rearrange them according to priority.

“Stop trying to do a million things every day and instead, prioritise the main tasks which are most important to you and closest to what you value in life,” says Shahida Arabi, the author of The Smart Girl’s Ten Commandments For Self-Care and Self-Love, an Amazon bestseller.

What you should remove: things that can be considered as clutter in your life, which includes physical items that don’t add value to your self-development, emotional clutter, and even interpersonal clutter. Is there someone toxic in your life that just gives you negative vibes? If you can’t remove them completely, at least try to keep interactions with them to a minimum.

  1. Focus on how you use your time

Take a good look at what you do every day to see if there’s anything not worth doing that you can cut out. If you’re asked to take on more and it’s not worth your time or doesn’t fit with your core values, just say no. This way, you’ll have more time to spend with the people you love or do activities that add value to your being — be it a massage, learning new skills or just enjoying brunch with a close group of friends.


  1. Take care of yourself

Step back and take a holistic look at your activities to see if your daily routine is optimal to your well-being. Make time to exercise, not just to look and feel good but also to build your strength, stamina and immunity. When you’re healthy, you’ll have more energy to dedicate towards improving your life. It also pays to eat well for the same reasons, so try to plan more healthful meals and eat less of what’s not good for your body.

  1. Give yourself more ‘me-time’

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, married or divorced, one of the best ways to cultivate a loving relationship with yourself is by spending some time alone. It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert: you’ll reap the benefits of quality time to yourself. Visit a café or restaurant. Bring a journal, book, drawing pad or laptop with you for company.

Go watch a movie alone. Take long walks at the park. Stay a little longer in bed and breathe deeply. Meditate when you can. Whatever alone-time activity appeals to you, do it. You may be surprised by the thoughts and revelations that bubble up when you give yourself the time and space to listen to what’s inside.

  1. Love yourself unconditionally, every day

It takes a certain kind of love to make a woman feel complete, and we believe that this is where self-love comes in. No one can give it to you but yourself, simply because you’re the only person who knows yourself best. You know what you’ve been through and what your issues are — and you’re the only one who can make yourself feel better.

Loving yourself unconditionally also positively changes the way you see every part of you – your flaws, imperfections, strengths, and weaknesses. Each bit of you is unique, important and worthy of your love. And when you can accept this, you’ll experience that inner peace that so many of us wish for.