The Theory Behind Modern-day Infidelity   

Find out how modern day cheating happens in a marriage.
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Scenario #3: Signing up for dating sites

Dating sites like Tinder and OK Cupid have added a whole new dimension to relationships. On one hand they’ve made it easier for single people to search for partners based on certain preferences, but at the same time they’re one of the biggest contributors to online affairs. Just take a look at the recent Ashley Madison scandal. A staggering 37 million users – from regular Joes to government employees and high-profile personnel – signed up for the website that offers to connect people for extramarital affairs.

Why would a married man or woman sign up for dating sites just to connect with people who share similar interests, when there are so many social networking sites that offer the same service? It’s a highly suspicious act, especially when one hides their dating profiles from their partner. Even if your spouse tries to justify his actions, you should watch out for signs of cheating. The most obvious clue is the amount of time he spends online and more importantly, a strong streak of secrecy like turning his phone or computer screen away as soon as you walk into the room.

Surprising facts about infidelity

  • 41% of married couples admit to either physical or emotional infidelity.
  • 56% of men and 34% of women who cheat rate their marriage as “happy” or “very happy”.
  • 74% of men say that they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught.
  • 36% of men and women admit to having an affair with a co-worker.
  • The average length of an affair is two years.
  • 68% of women and 51% of men believe that sending flirty text messages is cheating.
  • 44% of women cheat because they’re attached to the person, while 32% admit to cheating to reaffirm their desirability.
  • “Lack of sexual satisfaction” has been cited as the number one reason why people cheat.
  • 31% of marriages survive an affair.

Source: Journal of Marital and Family Therapy; Evolutionary Psychology; Infidelity: When, Where, Why

This article was first published in the October, 2016 issue of Her World.


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