My husband cheated on me after 11 years of marriage

When her marriage ended in shambles, she found love again when she least expected it
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Feeling that flutter

Although we texted every day, I never truly felt that heady rush, until one fateful day when his phone broke down. We had been messaging as usual when he stopped replying for hours, despite his WhatsApp status showing that he was online. I began to fret – unease settling in my heart – as I wondered if I had said or done anything to upset him. None of my calls were getting through, even those placed through Facebook Messenger.

I barely slept a wink that night and come morning, the first thing I did was check for replies – there were none. It was only much later in the evening that he got in touch. He apologised and explained how someone had been fixing his phone, which was probably why WhatsApp had indicated he was online. It took this incident for me to realise his importance to me. That sealed the deal – I wanted this to be serious.

My happy ending

He met my dad personally to ask for my hand in marriage – a gentlemanly gesture – and my dad gave his blessing. Three days later, he returned to his job in Australia and his parents came to meet mine. Together, we set the14th of January, 2017, as our wedding date. While we are currently in a long-distance relationship, I do think it’s the best way to test our love and observe if both parties are willing to make sacrifices for the other. This time round, communication is genuine and free-flowing – there is always room for discussion. I divulged my past to him and he willingly accepts me for who I am. He may be far physically, but never once has he made me feel empty. And unlike my previous marriage, I don’t feel alone when I’m with him.

Second chance at love

This divorcee who’s found love again shares her tips on what you should do before jumping back into the dating pool.

  1. Take the time to think about what it is that you want. What sort of person do you want to spend want to spend the rest of your life with?
  2. Travel and open yourself up to new experiences. This will also allow you to discover the qualities you want in a partner.
  3. Your circle of friends is important and relevant – they will attract like-minded people. In turn, these are the potential partners who will be introduced to you.
  4. Before getting serious with someone, make sure you have the support of family and friends. Hear what they have to say about your potential partner – they will want what is best for you, and a third party tends to exercise better judgement.

This article by Poon Li-Wei first appeared in the December 2016 issue of Her World

READ: How To Thrive After A Divorce

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