“I married a sex addict!”

Years into their marriage, a wife finds out about her husband’s double life. Natasha* tells us about her shock at discovering the one...
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Years into their marriage, a wife finds out about her husband’s double life. Natasha* tells us about her shock at discovering the one dearest to her was a total stranger.

“We married young, when we were in college. He was my high school sweetheart, a kind, gentle, God-fearing soul. We were far away from home and the distance from our families only added to the push to get married. So when he popped the question, I did not hesitate.

The early years were beautiful. We studied together, lived in domestic bliss and made plans for our future. After graduating, we stayed on in the USA to work and gain experience for a few years. He worked with a prestigious university, and I worked at a publishing company. Everything seemed to fall into place and we felt even more blessed when I became pregnant. With our second child, he advised me to stay at home and look after our children, which I gladly did. Raising our kids is not a sacrifice but a privilege.

A stranger’s email

One day, I received an email from a stranger, out of the blue. It contained a short message which said I should look at the attached pictures closely. When I looked at them, I saw that they were lewd photos of men’s private parts. Shocked, I started to delete them. Suddenly, something caught my eye. The private parts had a familiar mole. I had seen it before! I glanced through the other pictures and there was my husband, with his smiling face, in a lewd position, naked. My head spun and I ran to the bath to throw up.

My heart pounding, I wrote back to this person. Who are you? Where did you get these? How did you know my husband? The next day I received a reply. It was a woman he had had an affair with! After a  few exchanges, I learnt that my husband had been cheating on me for two years, not just with one, but with many women. My heart broke. How could I have not known? He found his women online, at social networking sites. They would chat, it would turn to sex talk, they would exchange pictures and then make dates to meet up and have one night stands, sometimes more than once. This woman felt cheated because she thought he loved her.

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